In this activity, you will explore assertiveness. This powerful way of being creates great results, strengthens relationships, and builds self-esteem.
1. Write three different responses to the instructor described in the following situation.
placating: Oh... okay then. It's probably better that I'm not in this class anyway, It seems to hard for me.
blaming: What the hell is your problem? You're seriously not going to let me be in this class? So now because of YOU, I have to wait til next year to graduate.
leveling: I'm sorry professor, I know I should have been more responsible by making sure I was added to your class, but is there anyway I can add the class? I'll stay however long you need me to to show you that I'm dedicated.
Now, think about one of your most challenging academic goals. Decide who could help you with this goal. Write a letter to this person and request assistance.
Remember, for effective requests, use the DAPPS rule.
Dear mom,
My most challenging academic goal for this semester is to pass my Sociology class with a C or better by December 11, 2010. Passing my sociology class is an important stepping stone in my dream, because I need to pass this pre-requisite so I can enter the nursing program next year. My dream is to become a success Mental Health Nurse and this is important to me because I feel like this is what I was meant to do. I want to do anything I can possible do to make this dream come true, and with a little help and guidance from you, I know I can make this dream become a reality. My obstacles are reading my chapter every week, getting up every Friday morning at 6am so I can make it to class by 8am, and studying the material for my upcoming quizzes and tests. I believe that you can help me overcome these obstacles because you are the only person that is not afraid to tell me when I am slacking off, and you are the only person that cares enough about me and my success as much as I do. You inspire me to be successful, and to get my tasks done, and I feel that with a little push from you, I will be able to do this. I'm reluctant to ask you for help with this because I am an adult now, and I know I should be able to do all this on my own, but I feel like I still need you to motivate me when I don't feel like doing something. I would like for you to get on me if you see me slacking off, and I would like you to remind me of the importance of the goal that I am working towards.
3.Write about what you have learned or relearned about being assertive.
After doing these activities I realizes that I have not been very assertive towards my goals and dreams. I'm kind of just going through the motions right now to get through this semester but I don't think I actually understood that this will all affect me in enrolling in the nursing program. Learning how I haven't been very responsible disappoints me, but I'm motivated enough to get back on track. These activities and these classes have truly helped me see the way I am and what I need to do to change. I used to blame but now I'm leveling. I never really placated, because to be honest, I never felt like anything was really my fault, which is why I used to blame so much. But now I know to put my goals before others goals. Nobody is going to do my goals for me. So from now on I will help when I can, but if something that is more important for me needs to get done then I will do what's best for me first.
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